Children are not witnesses to #Domestic #Abuse they are victims this diminishes the impact on them, and when contact is pushed without these issues being addressed with the #dynamics exposed for the children to be appropriately protectivly supported and healed along with their protective parent it causes these children to be re-traumatised and the #perpetrator… Read More Are Cafcass creating untold Emotional Damage to Protective Parents and Children in the Family Courts!
The types of behaviour associated with #coercive control on their own may or may not have constituted a criminal offence before December 2015. The introduction of the new criminal offence ‘Controlling or Coercive Behaviour’, (The Serious Crime Act 2015) on the 29th December 2015, has meant that behaviours associated with coercion and control, the #pattern… Read More What exactly is Coercive Control?
Not all parents are protective. Anyone can call themself a parent.But being a parent means putting your children’s needs above your own and doing what is right always. Not most of the time not occasionally not when officials are looking but always. Physically emotionally and financially your children come first. That’s what I was brought… Read More All Protective parents need a voice in Family Court but let’s start by cutting the bullshit!
The typical judge, Cafcass officer, or divorce mediator, even if he or she has impressive degrees and licenses, has often had very little training on domestic abuse,an example of this: a commission service staff was once asked if they had domestic abuse and trauma training due to the fact they were accessing a child to… Read More Family Courts enable controlling men to carry on Domestic Abuse at expence of their own children & society
Many moons ago I was a Beauty Therapist and iv never let that inner beauty therapist part of me go. I believe that physical self care is essential for my mental health and well being so Iv always taken care of my skin hair body and nails and enjoy making the most of what iv… Read More Treating yourself to a bit of me time is essential for mental health but how? When you are a busy single mum.
When a mother victim leaves her abuser , batterers often recognize that the most expedient way to continue to hurt his partner is to assert his legal rights to control her access to their children. By gaining control of the children, an abusive male now has a powerful tool which allows him to continue to… Read More Fathers often use Parental Alienation to discredit mothers to continue abuse & control DV by proxy!
When I made the decision to split from my ex partner in 2014 I at that point did not even know or recognise that I was abused. Id been spending a lot of time blaming myself for everything wrong in my life and wandering how a happy go lucky woman had become a shadow of… Read More Why Lundy Bancroft is a man worthy of a pedestal a man that saved my children & I from Domestic Abuse
Im not talking here about genuine #protective #fathers that do not have the means here I’m talking about the #avoiders the #entitled #male #privaliged covert perpetrators of #Domestic #Abuse. The ones that use their child to continue abuse of their ex after #separation as a punishment . The ones that. #Lundy #Bancroft talks of in… Read More When a Father avoids child support that is Financial Abuse. No matter the red herrings he spins!
There I said it, now que the verbal and #emotional #abuse that will come at me from both sides in the comments . From the #misogynistic women which I my self once misguided probably was and the #angry #controlling #men. Who both don’t listen to anyone but the mirror ! Saying a statement like this… Read More Fathers RIGHTS groups would do good to remember it’s responsibilities they have NOT RIGHTS & children are not property and something to win!
As if being a #single parent isn’t a hard enough job as it is, no matter what the rewards seeing our beautiful children thrive and become the amazing individuals that they are its no secret that single parenthood is at times lonely exhausting mentally, physically and financially draining and thats when there is a coparent… Read More Mindful steps to help single parents deal with a counter parenting ex partners
#Holding #space for someone isn’t easy , in fact it’s an on going test of my character but it’s a better choice for me than turning bitter and twisted and I’m adamant my nature will not become poisened by my past. My ex’s behaiver towards myself and my children cannot be excused but for their… Read More Why I will always HOLD SPACE for my controlling ex! For mine, his and our children’s sake!
I won’t go into my whole story here because I’m writing my book EXPOSING THE SECRETS BEHIND THE WHITE PICKET FENCE but briefly I was an independent 23 year old. I split with my long term childhood boyfriend as we had grown apart and I bought him out of our mortgage. I was young free… Read More Down the Rabbit Hole is the only way to describe the FAMILY COURT & the spiral of hell it enables!
#Emotional #abuse is ongoing emotional mistreatment of a person by another. It is often a drip drip pattern and starts off slowly. Sometimes its known as psychological abuse or mental abuse and can have a severe impact on a person’s life. It can involve deliberately trying to scare, intimidate, frighten or humiliate an individual see… Read More What is Emotional abuse?