I’m the biggest #gadget lover,I love trying all gadgets and if I find a good one I will share it. Now I can take or leave apples but if I was to choose it would be a #pink #lady every time. But I hate biting into whole apples, I don’t know why but it makes… Read More An Apple a Day keeps the Doctor away. BUT who struggles to bite?
Children are not witnesses to #Domestic #Abuse they are victims this diminishes the impact on them, and when contact is pushed without these issues being addressed with the #dynamics exposed for the children to be appropriately protectivly supported and healed along with their protective parent it causes these children to be re-traumatised and the #perpetrator… Read More Are Cafcass creating untold Emotional Damage to Protective Parents and Children in the Family Courts!
I’ll tell you what about men!Men are accountable for a double figure of murders against women known to them this year alone Rrrr bu bu bu I know what you’re going to say ! Shush Again MEN are accoutable for a double figure amount of murders this year alone against women known to them “Bu… Read More I’ll tell u whatabout men. Men are abusing & killing Women at a rate that can NOT be ignored!
PREVENTING ACQUISITION OF ECONOMIC RESOURCES Such as interfering with/sabotaging partner’s education, training and employment; insisting that partner’s wages are paid into the perpetrator’s bank account; preventing partner from claiming welfare benefits; denying partner access to personal/joint bank account. CONTROLLING ACCESS TO/PREVENTING USE OF INDIVIDUAL/SHARED ECONOMIC RESOURCES Such as making partner ask for money; demanding to… Read More What is Economic/Financial Abuse?
The types of behaviour associated with #coercive control on their own may or may not have constituted a criminal offence before December 2015. The introduction of the new criminal offence ‘Controlling or Coercive Behaviour’, (The Serious Crime Act 2015) on the 29th December 2015, has meant that behaviours associated with coercion and control, the #pattern… Read More What exactly is Coercive Control?
Not all parents are protective. Anyone can call themself a parent.But being a parent means putting your children’s needs above your own and doing what is right always. Not most of the time not occasionally not when officials are looking but always. Physically emotionally and financially your children come first. That’s what I was brought… Read More All Protective parents need a voice in Family Court but let’s start by cutting the bullshit!
Sometimes life gives us lemons. Sour lemons and there is only one way to describe it. It sucks! And we can either suck them up and become bitter or we can squeeze them add a little sweetness and make cocktail’s and lemon Teas. I know what I do when life throws me lemons. I feel… Read More When life throws you Lemons make a Slushie Lemonade cocktail and stick the middle finger 🍋
The typical judge, Cafcass officer, or divorce mediator, even if he or she has impressive degrees and licenses, has often had very little training on domestic abuse,an example of this: a commission service staff was once asked if they had domestic abuse and trauma training due to the fact they were accessing a child to… Read More Family Courts enable controlling men to carry on Domestic Abuse at expence of their own children & society
Iv got to be honest I used to love a drink, but nowadays I’m more of a pukka tea kind of girl. I didn’t choose to stop drinking. I found that going through Domestic Abuse which has directly caused me to develop generalised anxiety having a couple of glasses of my favourite wine makes it… Read More How and Why I Celebrate National Wine Week as a Semi Soba/Teetotaler
Many moons ago I was a Beauty Therapist and iv never let that inner beauty therapist part of me go. I believe that physical self care is essential for my mental health and well being so Iv always taken care of my skin hair body and nails and enjoy making the most of what iv… Read More Treating yourself to a bit of me time is essential for mental health but how? When you are a busy single mum.
When a mother victim leaves her abuser , batterers often recognize that the most expedient way to continue to hurt his partner is to assert his legal rights to control her access to their children. By gaining control of the children, an abusive male now has a powerful tool which allows him to continue to… Read More Fathers often use Parental Alienation to discredit mothers to continue abuse & control DV by proxy!
When I made the decision to split from my ex partner in 2014 I at that point did not even know or recognise that I was abused. Id been spending a lot of time blaming myself for everything wrong in my life and wandering how a happy go lucky woman had become a shadow of… Read More Why Lundy Bancroft is a man worthy of a pedestal a man that saved my children & I from Domestic Abuse
My daughter loves #pineapple but I seriously struggle to cut it open to the point Iv often hacked into it making a complete mess. That was until I came across this pineapple #cutter. It’s a brilliant #gadget and so easy to use. It creates a tunnel in the middle where the pineapple is ,leaving the… Read More Pineapple lovers will just love this must have gadget! Roll on Summer Time!
Im not talking here about genuine #protective #fathers that do not have the means here I’m talking about the #avoiders the #entitled #male #privaliged covert perpetrators of #Domestic #Abuse. The ones that use their child to continue abuse of their ex after #separation as a punishment . The ones that. #Lundy #Bancroft talks of in… Read More When a Father avoids child support that is Financial Abuse. No matter the red herrings he spins!
There I said it, now que the verbal and #emotional #abuse that will come at me from both sides in the comments . From the #misogynistic women which I my self once misguided probably was and the #angry #controlling #men. Who both don’t listen to anyone but the mirror ! Saying a statement like this… Read More Fathers RIGHTS groups would do good to remember it’s responsibilities they have NOT RIGHTS & children are not property and something to win!
My #beautiful baby girl has the most #amazing #hair and Iv wanted her to feel that way herself about it from the day she was born, so after hearing her say ” My Hair is Like a Big #Fluffy #Brown #Cloud and I love It” after looking in the mirror the other morning I was… Read More My 6 year old describes her natural mixed race hair as a Fluffy Chocolate Cloud that she loves!
As if being a #single parent isn’t a hard enough job as it is, no matter what the rewards seeing our beautiful children thrive and become the amazing individuals that they are its no secret that single parenthood is at times lonely exhausting mentally, physically and financially draining and thats when there is a coparent… Read More Mindful steps to help single parents deal with a counter parenting ex partners
Something that’s not talked about is what #financial #abuse actually entails. A lot of us have heard about it as it’s in the media a lot lately but the thing is financial abuse is a very personal experience to each individual person and it can play out in many ways and it can happen to… Read More My experience of Financial Abuse & how I rebuilt my business one day at a time that was sabotaged by my ex!
#Holding #space for someone isn’t easy , in fact it’s an on going test of my character but it’s a better choice for me than turning bitter and twisted and I’m adamant my nature will not become poisened by my past. My ex’s behaiver towards myself and my children cannot be excused but for their… Read More Why I will always HOLD SPACE for my controlling ex! For mine, his and our children’s sake!
Credit: Manchesterstatue.org An 8ft bronze statue of #suffragette leader #Emmeline #Pankhurst will be unveiled in #Manchester city centre next year. The first statue of a woman to go up in the city in more than a 100 years and it will be partly funded by the Government. I named my own daughter after this particular… Read More Mancunian suffragette Emmeline Pankhurst will be coming home to #Manchestaaah as an 8ft statue!